Would you believe me if I told you I have been known to offend people? 😉
It’s true, and I never do it on purpose. I’m just odd, I guess. My hubby and I were discussing this a few days ago. Many times in my life I have been called a “goody two shoes” or “holier than thou.” Oh, never to my face, I always hear it second hand. I do not strive to be these things. It kind of makes me sad that people are so judgmental…or just plain mean, especially when they haven’t gotten to know the real me. The me beyond my introverted self. The me that may take a week or two to break out of a shell of shyness.
Here’s the thing. From a very young age, I have felt VERY convicted about certain things that society, in general, deems normal. So, I don’t do them. And that’s that. What are said things?
First – drinking. I have no interest in it whatsoever. Not that I’ve never drank before, I recall several times as a curious child taking a nice sip of my dad’s daily beer. Once in junior high, my mom shared a sip of a wine cooler with me. It tasted just as nasty as the beer had when I was a kid. So, I have no desire to ever partake again. I’m okay with that. As I’ve gotten older, I feel this is part of God’s design for me. I’m still not 100% sure what His perfect plan is for my life, but I know that His desire is not for me to partake of this particular “norm” of the world. I also know that not everyone will feel this particular conviction, so don’t worry about me judging you for drinking, just because I don’t drink. You may be the person God needs to share a drink and a testimony with that lost soul in the bar who is hanging on by a thread.
Second – cursing. Again, don’t think a colorful word has never escaped my lips, because it has happened a few times in my younger life. But, I personally don’t find cursing necessary, and it is not part of my daily vocabulary. This simple little thing is something else I was convicted about at a pretty young age. Again, I’m not sure the rhyme or reason behind it, I just know God said this is not for me. Another part of His plan for my life, and no, I will not judge you for it. (I may, however, ask you to refrain from using it if my children are around.) 😉
Amazingly, I have found that these 2 little convictions have lead to numerous occurances of the the aforementioned name calling. Does it bother me? Not so much anymore. I know that I am NOT perfect. I am NOT holier than anyone. I am a flawed sinner, and I will always be. I will probably always struggle with anger and self-doubt. I will always struggle with fear. And there are many, many more.
As Christians, why do we so easily fall into the trap of being judgmental…toward each other? It’s a cleverly designed trap of the Enemy…oh, and it works extremely well.
“[All Christians] Finally, all of you should be of one mind. Sympathize with each other. Love each other as brothers and sisters. Be tenderhearted, and keep a humble attitude.” 1 Peter 3:8 NLT
“For everyone has sinned; we all fall short of God’s glorious standard.” Romans 3:23 NLT
I am so thankful that I am not your judge, and you are not mine. So, can we get passed the persnickety, silly attitudes and be sisters and brothers in Christ? That’s how it’s meant to be. Knowing no one is perfect, we are all different, with different plans for our lives. Individual plans, personally crafted by a personal Abba God.