Last week I confessed that I am a “messy” personality. I’m trying to learn to love that part of myself & overcome it at the same time. Does that even make sense? It’s a battle in my head. I absolutely LOVE it when everything in our home is in its proper place. I brings me great peace of mind. Clutter causes me stress…it really does, but HOW can a house made up of 4 “messies” not have clutter??
I’ve been searching for the answer to that question for years! I’ve read books, blogs, helps…you name it, I’ve probably tried it.
The first help resource I was given to try was Flylady. I love her website and wonderful helps! Really, if you struggle with a disorganized home, start here!
But I soon discovered that I will never be a Flylady. It is NOT important to me that my sink is shining. 😉 While trying to follow the Flylady routine, I would get so discouraged because I just couldn’t keep that important step in order. So, I would inevitably give up…for a while.
It wasn’t until years later that I read in the book The House That Cleans Itself by Mindy Starns Clark, and in it she revealed to me that I wasn’t alone with struggling with the “shiny sink.” She referred to it as a “Home Base Zone” or that place that when it’s clean and orderly provides you the most peace of mind. I have 2 of those, the kitchen counter and my bedroom. What a revelation! (Yes, you may laugh at my craziness. I give you permission.) You can ask my hubby, when these 2 areas are in order, I am able to sit and relax. If they aren’t, I will stress and busy myself with a massive clean-out of everything until these are done. The sad thing is, I know this now, but still these are the last 2 areas I usually get it in my cleaning routine. Crazy, right? Usually, because they are the simplest to conquer.
We are doing fairly well with our cleaning routine so far. Not perfect, but ok. But one thing that I’ve learned that I feel I need to share with other ladies like me. It’s OK to be OK.
You may not always get every dish washed and put away before bed. That’s ok. I would much rather take that little bit of time to read a story to my children.
You may not always get all of the laundry folded and put away. That’s ok. That spontaneous game of hide-and-seek with the kids was much more fun.
You may not always be able to “eat off the floors.” That’s ok. That nature walk through the yard with the family sure was wonderful.
See my point? Sometimes it is important that you make family more important to you than a spotless house! Family make the house a home, not the complete absence of dust. 😉
Be encouraged. Forgive yourself if you don’t get EVERYTHING done. Love and purpose time well spent with your family. I promise, they won’t remember nor care that you left a dirty dish in the “not-so-shiny” sink.
Now, I must hit the laundry. 🙂