I’m No Flylady

Last week I confessed that I am a “messy” personality.  I’m trying to learn to love that part of myself & overcome it at the same time.  Does that even make sense?  It’s a battle in my head.  I absolutely LOVE it when everything in our home is in its proper place.  I brings me great peace of mind.  Clutter causes me stress…it really does, but HOW can a house made up of 4 “messies” not have clutter??

This is my chore for today. FUN!

This is my chore for today. FUN!

I’ve been searching for the answer to that question for years!  I’ve read books, blogs, helps…you name it, I’ve probably tried it.

The first help resource I was given to try was Flylady.  I love her website and wonderful helps!  Really, if you struggle with a disorganized home, start here!

But I soon discovered that I will never be a Flylady.  It is NOT important to me that my sink is shining. 😉  While trying to follow the Flylady routine, I would get so discouraged because I just couldn’t keep that important step in order.  So, I would inevitably give up…for a while.

It wasn’t until years later that I read in the book The House That Cleans Itself by Mindy Starns Clark, and in it she revealed to me that I wasn’t alone with struggling with the “shiny sink.”  She referred to it as a “Home Base Zone” or that place that when it’s clean and orderly provides you the most peace of mind.  I have 2 of those, the kitchen counter and my bedroom.  What a revelation! (Yes, you may laugh at my craziness. I give you permission.)  You can ask my hubby, when these 2 areas are in order, I am able to sit and relax.  If they aren’t, I will stress and busy myself with a massive clean-out of everything until these are done.  The sad thing is, I know this now, but still these are the last 2 areas I usually get it in my cleaning routine.  Crazy, right?  Usually, because they are the simplest to conquer.

We are doing fairly well with our cleaning routine so far.  Not perfect, but ok.  But one thing that I’ve learned that I feel I need to share with other ladies like me.  It’s OK to be OK.

You may not always get every dish washed and put away before bed.  That’s ok.  I would much rather take that little bit of time to read a story to my children.

You may not always get all of the laundry folded and put away.  That’s ok.  That spontaneous game of hide-and-seek with the kids was much more fun.

You may not always be able to “eat off the floors.” That’s ok. That nature walk through the yard with the family sure was wonderful.

See my point?  Sometimes it is important that you make family more important to you than a spotless house!  Family make the house a home, not the complete absence of dust. 😉

Be encouraged. Forgive yourself if you don’t get EVERYTHING done.  Love and purpose time well spent with your family.  I promise, they won’t remember nor care that you left a dirty dish in the “not-so-shiny” sink.

Now, I must hit the laundry. 🙂

-De

Maintaining Our Home in 2014

I don’t make New Year’s resolutions, because I inevitably break them, but one of the things we’ve pledged as a family to do better this year is cut down on clutter.

Personal Confession: Hi, I’m DeAnna, and I’m a “messy” personality.  😉  Well, maybe not messy as much as piler an pack-rat.  My downfall is found in my piles.  I tend to just “pile” it before “sorting” through it.  This carries on until I’m tired of looking at said pile, sort through it, realize how much of it was simply trash to begin with, fuss at myself for not tossing said trash when it arrived…etc, etc.  Also, I’m easily emotionally attached to things.  I trait that my children have inherited, and thus have caused me to realize how bad I am.  If someone gives me something, I feel terrible to part with it.  I NEVER want to hurt someone’s feelings by allowing them to think I didn’t appreciate the gift.  But some things JUST take up space.  I need to free myself from this.

So, here we are, the first full week of 2014, and so far I’m on a slow moving track to cut back.  (Pray for me that I can keep motivated and keep my family motivated.)

Around November we started using a modified version of this cleaning schedule from Smile Like You Mean It.

Daily Homemaking Schedule  semi-cleared version

Click the pic to download the file from Smile Like You Mean It.

So far, it’s been working pretty great for us.  Yes, we have busy days & may not get everything done, but it’s about creating a new habit!

Just remember, don’t be overwhelmed.  You CAN do this!  You are in good company, but just sitting and stressing over it won’t get anything done! (I say this to myself every day!)

She looks well to the ways of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness. – Proverbs 31:27 ESV

Be blessed!

-De